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Pittsburgh Area Brain Injury Alliance, Brain Trauma and Head Injury News.

Support Lines

Volume 2, Number 1 - January 7,  2004

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"I must create a system, or be enslaved by another man's." -William Blake

Today is Wednesday, January 7th, the 7th. day of 2004.
After today, God willing, there will be 349 Days left in the year.

Today is . . . . Some special day somewhere and someone who believes they are important to the world was born on this date.

 

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What you cannot enforce, do not command. -Sophocles

 

In This Edition


In a society safe and worthy to be free, teaching which produces a willingness to lead, as well as a willingness to follow, must be given to all. -William F. Russell

 
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A leader has two important characteristics; first, he is going somewhere; second, he is able to persuade other people to go with him. -Maximilien Francois Robespierre

 
 
Hello Folks,
 
Greetings and welcome to the New Year, and the current issue of the PABIA newsletter. As you can see, some changes have been made. Your feedback is and will continue to be much appreciated.
 
I would like to welcome all the new subscribers and friends to the PABIA family. Thank you so much to all of you who have also passed on the newsletter to your family, friends, work colleagues and associates. Please continue to do so.
 
New Year celebrations give us reason to believe we are able to start fresh, turn over a new leaf, and cut free from our past. This is a magical time, when we feel as if the possibilities are endless. We resolve to make changes in our lives that closer reflect who we consciously think we want to be or that we believe mirror who we are.
 
Unfortunately, for many people, resolutions go out with the wind along with the stale air as soon as we open a window. Are we weak or is it that we are unfamiliar with accepting our authority position in our lives? Do we really want to make the positive changes that we ritualistically create resolutions for? Or is it a societal make believe game that carries over from childhood? Did we watch and learn this behavior from our peers, parents, siblings and teachers?
 
Without a concrete set of guidelines and memories to fill in the blanks, I cannot answer these questions for you. Resolve to understand your motivations this year.
 
Thank you for devoting some of your most precious resource to the reading of this publication. Indeed, the thing that we call time is the only thing of real, true value that any of us possess, and I am truly thankful that you share some of yours with me.
 
I pray that God bless each of you in the dash between 2003-2004. Please remember to breathe during the dash and make time for relaxing a priority. May each of you be enriched by the bits and pieces we provide here for your reading pleasure. And may you find that you are the ruler in your mind, even if by default.
 
John Pistorius
 

You will never be a leader unless you first learn to follow and be led. -Tiorio

 
New Funding Source for Brain Injury Rehabilitation,CommCare Waiver
 
Amy Dana & Dr. Mason Scott at the January 6, 2004 PABIA meeting.Dr. Mason Scott, Executive Director, Keystone Nuero-Rehab and Amy Dana, Accreditation Coordinator provided the twenty-five meeting attendees with accurate, up to date information regarding the PA Dept. of Welfare CommCare Waiver funding for Traumatic Brain Injury Rehabilitation.
 
The audience participated in a lively question and answer session and interacted with the presenters throughout their presentation. Ms. Dana outlined the eligibility criteria for the CommCare Waiver. Currently, thirty more people can be accepted for services this fiscal year. Next year an additional seventy people can be added to the program.
 
COMMCARE provides funding for individualized, person oriented, functional need based services. The money follows the person. If the recipient decides to change service providers, they are free to do so, as their choice directs where the money is spent. The goal is to equip people to live in the community as independently as their potential will allow, instead of placing them in a nursing home.
 
To be eligible for COMMCARE, a person must:
  • be age 21 or older,
  • have a diagnosis of Traumatic Brain Injury which occurred as a sudden insult or damage to the brain or its coverings, not of a degenerative, congenital, or post-operative nature, which is expected to last for an indefinite period.
  • have a physician sign a completed MA 51 form.
  • have functional limitations in at least three (3) of the following major life areas: mobility, self-care, self-direction, independent living, communication, behavior, cognitive capacity (judgment, reasoning, memory).
  • Not be ventilator dependent.
  • have resources at or below $8,000, excluding house, vehicle, or burial plots.
The Three Rivers Center for Independent Living (TRCIL) is the Service Coordination agency for the Pittsburgh Area. To access these services, contact Nichelle Smith at TRCIL by calling (412) 371-7700, ext. 145.  Ms. Smith will ask for some basic information and then have an enrollment specialist contact you to schedule a meeting.
 
After the referral information is taken, the Enrollment Specialist at TRCIL will meet with the person and direct them and/or their family caregiver through the process of obtaining eligibility.
 
Remember, only thirty people can be enrolled in this Waiver Program through July, 2004. CALL NOW.
 
(source: information sheets passed out by Dr. Scott & Amy Dana, Keystone Nuero-Rehab.)
 

Those who can command themselves command others. -William Haszlitt

 
by Malin Lowenadler-Shadel
 
Malin Lowenadler-ShadelThink back to life during a ‘slower’ time, where spaghetti sauce was made from sunrise to dinnertime, and one waited with full sense of anticipation for the phone call from a loved one, by the single telephone of a house. I wonder why, in today’s world, the jarred sauce is bought instead, and your loved ones not only have your home telephone number, but at least one mobile telephone number too? The issue may be, in fact, time; what is it that we obtain, if you will, with the rushing? Are we racing against the ‘Jones’ of modern day’s economical accomplishments, or is it just the basic element of waiting that has gone to the wayside? What’s wrong with getting what we want, when we want it? Technology leads us toward a ‘better’ future, but at a cost that, too quickly, may be overlooked with the frequency of mobile telephone usage.

Research studies over the past eleven years indicate that time, apparently, is our ‘friend’, with respect to our continuous use of mobile telephones. Not only is wireless communication technology ever changing, it has also not been around long enough for sound research evidence to be established. As K R Foster & J E Moulder of IEEE Spectrum 8/2002 state, identifying links between cancer and environmental exposure of any kind is surprisingly difficult because of the absence of a single cause of cancer. Even if mobile telephones had no connection to cancer, thousands of users would develop brain cancer every year, given the hundreds of millions of mobile telephone users around the world and given so-called background rates of brain cancer (in the United States, it strikes about six in 100,000 people per year). Identifying an effect of cell telephones against this back-ground of the disease requires carefully designed studies.

According to the FDA and others, the research to date does not show that mobile phone radio frequency emissions have adverse health effects but there is not enough information at this point to conclude that these products are without risk; provided information from the United States General Accounting Office as a Report to Congressional Requesters: Telecommunications, Research and Regulatory Efforts on Mobile Phone Health Issue.

There is no evidence from laboratory or epidemiological studies, that exposure to RF energy (radio waves) at levels below recommended limits has any health significance for humans, again according to KR Foster & JE Moulder of IEEE Spectrum 8/2002. The conclusion is that the available scientific data does not indicate an adverse effect on cognitive abilities, even in people who make frequent use of mobile telephones, as written by the Health Council of the Netherlands in 01/02.

There we have it, in a small package of basically up-to-date researched information. As one friend put it, "Why not utilize that which technology has to offer, while it is here to make our lives more ‘convenient’, since we'll probably not be alive to find out what kind of adverse effects these mobile telephones might actually have on us!" If you'll excuse me while I phone home to make sure that the spaghetti sauce is warming because I want to eat NOW!


The Master has no mind of her own. She works with the mind of the people.
-Lao-tzu

 
Soldiers and Gardens
-by John Pistorius
 
As I wrestle with this writing project, I question my authority in this matter. I mean really, who am I to attempt to explain the idea of overcoming cognitive dissonance?
 
Many of my friends, associates and acquaintances are much more educated in the field of psychology. Some have high degrees from prestigious universities. This self-doubt causes disharmony in my thinking.
How can I know with any certainty that my choice to continue writing about this subject is valid? In this case, I am using feedback from trusted people to assist me in making the decision to continue. They have reminded me that I am sharing my opinions, ideas and understandings of the matter. Their supportive approval inspires me to continue. Telling me that they believe my experiences and knowledge can be useful to others, helps me to overcome the negative thoughts that arise. I’m grateful to these people for their honest words of encouragement. So I continue to slay the thought soldiers that might otherwise halt my progression.

Four Powerful Battalions of Thought Soldiers

  1. Our mental approval or acceptance of the truth or actuality of something
  2. opinions/prejudices/biases
  3. Our absolute certainty, conviction or surety in anything
  4. Doubtfulness, skepticism, distrust

These four concepts stand like soldiers at the gate of our thought garden to defend themselves and the deeper convictions they represent when challenged. Sometimes they represent opposite positions, forcing us to choose between them.

I use the analogy of a garden to give us a mental image to assist in the cleansing process. We must uproot the underlying, embedded, erroneous ideas and thoughts. We must also be willing and able to automatically and immediately prune thoughts that surface in support of the belief or unwanted opinion from our garden of thought. It is our garden, and we are the gardeners.

These thought defending troopers’ mission is to protect the opinions, beliefs and prejudices that are sown in our mind and keep us safe from contrary evidence that could cut down or uproot the planted material. They work within certain boundaries to keep us in check. When confronted with new evidence which is contrary to the position they defend, these fighters immediately rise up in our mind launching powerful, convincing objections. One weapon in their arsenal consists of thoughts of evidence which supports the position in which they are entrenched. Often, we are not even aware of the battle until we ‘feel’ uneasy because we do not pay attention to our internal dialog.

Cognitive Dissonance occurs as every protest, challenge, objection and opposing thought are fired from the depths of our mind to defend the opinion or belief and shoot down new evidence. We have established an arsenal of well rooted, supporting grounds for believing the opinion, prejudice, conviction, and biased thought or idea. Battalions of thought soldiers will be brought to the front line to defend their ground. Usually, they will engage in combat automatically, without our conscious application of energy, to refute the new idea, thought or evidence. Too often, we simply surrender to their attack without a fight.

Sometimes an idea is so deeply seated in our mind that it does not supply supporting evidence. Like a mother who replies, ‘It just is’ to the child who asks, ‘Why?,’ the belief, biased idea, prejudice or opinion offers nothing but absolute conviction.

As I’m writing, I’m reminded of a precious friend and lover. In spite of compelling evidence to the contrary, I believed that she was faithful and defended my belief with conscious and unconscious energy. In the end, objective reality won. She was unfaithful. My belief in her faithfulness was in error. My mind automatically fought in her defense against the unmistakable information that I received contrary to my established position.

How can that be? The visible grounds for believing the existence of something else was clear. Yet, my mind automatically refuted the evidence with an arsenal of contrary ideas. Eventually, I was able to confront the new evidence honestly and thereby resolve the pained state of mind that resulted from the conflict. The resolution did nothing to resolve my emotional turmoil, but at least my mind was at ease. This experience was one of many that taught me how to overcome cognitive dissonance.

I’ve learned that we have the power to consciously erase old information and replace it with new, accurate, improved, or revised versions.

I’ve spent many years overcoming biased thoughts, beliefs and opinions which were planted in me by other people and experiences. The process continues. All of us have been conditioned by people in our lives who were conditioned by still other people. Each person has been influenced by others since the beginning of time. Their influence becomes an intrinsic part of our thought processes. It is not always detrimental. However, when it is, can we go to them for help? Not usually. We may not even recall the connection between the belief we hold dear and the person or persons responsible for planting the seeds that grew into our belief or opinion. Even if we could, they probably would not understand themselves enough to help us. Many times, our closest beliefs and opinions are formed over an extended period by many feelings, emotions, experiences, education and people that we might not even recall.

Changing our internal beliefs can be difficult. I’ve been told that it is impossible to automatically change positions, however, my personal experience has positively influenced my understanding of the exact opposite. I can change anything about my thinking, beliefs, opinions and any prejudgment tendencies planted in me. In fact, I’ve taught myself to do it automatically, immediately and without effort. However, sometimes the process can be painful. The Marines have a slogan that challenges their men, ‘Pain is weakness leaving the body.’ When applied to cognitive dissonance, I would replace ‘body’ with ‘mind.’

We run from pain, yet pain does not need to equal suffering. Experiencing and/or avoiding pain is a core, objective reality of the human condition. To conquer the pained state of mental disharmony called cognitive dissonance, we must first be willing to triumph over the soldiers of thought which are stationed in our garden.

So, I ask myself, "Am I willing to overcome mental disharmony?"

Sometimes, it can be easy to make the choice between current beliefs and new evidence. As in my weather forecast example from the first part in this series, we can simply make a conscious choice to either accept or reject the new information which contradicts our belief or opinion. Then, according to our selection, we face the consequences. Other times, vanquishing cognitive dissonance requires careful consideration and deliberate, commanding action.

Anyone who has tended a garden understands the insidious intrusion of the roots of undesirable species. Sometimes the roots are slyly powerful and can be nearly impossible to eliminate completely. When tending the garden of thought in our mind, we must keep alert, lest we be caught unaware, for the soldiers will come and take captive the master if we sleep.

Ask yourself this: , "If it is my mind and I own it, am I permitting myself to have absolute control over it?"

By default, we give our power over to others and the ideas they have planted. Nevertheless, we have the right to command and overrule the soldiers who guard our garden of thought because we are supreme to them.

How many times have you told yourself, "I can’t, because . . .?" Regardless of the objection, I would replace the statement with, "I can, if I . . ."

During my personal battle with the thought defending soldiers that I had stationed to protect my beliefs and opinions, I have had to fight long and hard. These troops were professionals. I was only beginning to gain knowledge of battling them. I had to learn to identify thought soldiers as either friend or foe. Many were ideas that had just settled in and became occupants by my nonperformance of what ought to have been done. I believe the distractions of life were sufficient to keep me from tending to the housekeeping chores that would have otherwise eliminated the clutter and accumulation of unproductive, undesirable material. Maybe I didn’t care to keep the garden clean because I was not taught. In any case, as I realized the need, I began forming mental images of the cleaning process. I imagined myself unrestricted by physical bounds, uprooting and raking away the debris.

While visualizing the cleaning process, I caught glimpses of hidden areas and barriers around which I could not see. I realized that these were particularly difficult areas to clean. They would require a dismantling of the barrier or some other strategy. Some have required professional cleansing assistance.

It is my mind, why would I want to let all of this unproductive, weed-like, debilitating, junk-thought material to continue to obstruct my harmonious, equitable distribution of the elements of my life?

Like so many people, I found myself to be a few pounds overweight. Cutting out a few calories and increasing the metabolism of calories proved to be difficult. The defending troops argued, "It runs in my family." All kinds of defensive soldiers stood up and fought for the cause. However, I was determined to fight them off. The most insidious of these soldiers were able to fatten me up with silky lies like:

  • having desert would not hurt
  • extra helpings were Ok
  • I needed the nutrition
  • I’d burn off extra calories and
  • tons of other supporting lies.

We live with the harvest from our thought garden. As we have sown, so do we reap. Upon my satisfactory dismantling of these thought barriers, and dropping the extra pounds, I realized that I was the commander in charge. But then other people told me that I would gain the weight back and more. This was a moment of cognitive dissonance that required deliberate action.

I realized my ownership of the mind in question. I accepted ownership of it. I agreed that if it was mine and I owned it that I had the power to use it to benefit me instead of permitting it to be filled with others’ ideas. Then I had to figure out what that meant. The first thing was to reject the other people’s notions that were contrary to mine about regaining weight.

Then, indeed, what did it mean to reach a point of understanding that my thoughts are really under my authority? It caused a great deal of uproar and additional dissonance in my mind. Now I had to deliberately work to overcome the soldiers that came to the front line in defense of my core beliefs in relationship to ownership and control of my mind. At first I questioned how I learned to give away my power. Realizing the futility of that, I chose to eradicate that mistaken belief system.

If you are still interested in vanquishing Cognitive Dissonance, read on in Pt. IV, Digging in, Planting, Fertilizing and Watering Your Garden.


I must follow the people. Am I not their leader? -Benjamin Disraeli

 
 
Animated Email Us graphicExquisitely done!!   My friend, John, you never fail to surprise me with your limitless energy, expressed in the correct directions to delight me and others!!   As always, your friend,  Dr. Francis Bruce Marion
 

The right of commanding is no longer an advantage transmitted by nature; like an inheritance, it is the fruit of labors, the price of courage. -Voltaire

 
JR Minkel
 
Daniel Schacter Image: LIZA GREENDaniel Schacter, a cognitive neuroscientist at Harvard University, distinguishes seven fundamental categories of memory imperfections or errors in his 2001 book The Seven Sins of Memory.
 
SA: What are the seven sins of memory?

DS: Three of them have to do with forgetting. The first is called transience, which refers to the fact that all other things being equal, memories tend to become less accessible over time. This is the standard type of forgetting we all tend to experience. The second sin I call absent-mindedness. That results from a failure at the interface between attention and memory. Because of a lapse of attention, one may never encode the memory sufficiently. Or it hasn't faded out of memory but you become preoccupied with other things and don't retrieve the memory at the time you need to. Say on the way home you're supposed to pick up milk and eggs, and on the way you drive right past the store. Then as soon as you get home your wife reminds you and you remember it. The third kind of forgetting I call blocking. That's when a memory is available but you can't get at it, the tip-of-the-tongue phenomenon.

To read the remainder of this article click here:

http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?articleID=000064E9-8F6F-1FE3-8F6F83414B7F0103

(source: Scientific American.com, 12/23/03)
 

Natural ability without education has more often attained to glory and virtue than education without natural ability. -Cicero

 
Upcoming Local Meeting Notices
 
Next Pittsburgh meeting date:  Tuesday, February 3, 2004
 
Ed Crinnion 1/6/04TIME:  7:00 P.M.
TOPIC: Mend The Mind, Mind The Body, Meet the Soul, with Dr. Frances Bruce Marion.
PLACE: 1323 Forbes Avenue, Pittsburgh Near Mercy Hospital and AJ Palumbo Center
ADMISSION: Free
PARKING: Free Parking Lot adjacent to the building.
Contact:  Ed Crinnion at 412.761.9870 or John Pistorius at 412.481.5482.
Refreshments provided.
 
 
The next Monroeville meeting date:  Thursday, January 8, 2004
 
Janey MosierTIME:  7:00 P.M.
PLACE: Cross Roads Presbyterian Church, 2310 Haymaker Road, Monroeville, Pa.
TOPIC: Peer Support Discussion with brief Video Presentation. 
ADMISSION: Free
PARKING: Free parking lot adjacent to the building.
Contact:  Denise Patterson at deenomad@aol.com or Paul Damon at 412.372.2888
Refreshments provided.
 
 
The next Indiana Twp. meeting date: Tuesday, January 13, 2004
 
Meeting ParticipantsTime: 7:00 P.M.
Place: the McLaughlin Education Center of HealthSouth, Harmarville.
Admission: Free
TOPIC: Peer Support
Parking: Free Parking in the HealthSouth Parking Garage
Contact Tom Byrnes at 412-531-0343 or Ann Ciotoli at 412-828-1300
Refreshments provided.
 

I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestioned ability of a man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor. -Henry David Thoreau

 
 
Realty Counseling Co., Inc. LogoThank you Jim Sproat and Realty Counseling Co., Inc. for your support of the PABIA-NEWS, electronic newsletter and for the use of your digital camera. We greatly appreciate your help. Anyone interested in contacting Jim to thank him personally, can reach him at Realty Counseling Co., Inc., 1012 East Carson Street, Pittsburgh, PA 15203,  by telephone at 412.381.1166 or visit the Realty Counseling Co. website at http://www.realtycounseling.com. Realty Counseling Co., Inc. is a full service real estate company, serving the Pittsburgh area for more than twenty-five years.
 
Thank you-Dr. Mason Scott, Executive Director Keystone Neuro-Rehab and Amy Dana, Accreditation Coordinator, for your presentation, "New Funding Sources For Brain Injury Rehabilitation Services" at the January 6, 2004 PABIA meeting.
 
A special Thank You to Anita Delghani, for your contributions of resources for this publication.
 
An Ongoing Thank You to Ed Crinnion for: his untiring efforts, his videotaping of meetings to give us a 'memory,' his continued financial support of this organization and his sponsoring of our website. Ed is one of a kind-to be sure!
 

Some will never learn anything because they understand everything too soon. -Thomas Blount
 
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John Pistorius at a recent meeting of the Pittsburgh Area Brain Injury Alliance Peer Support Group.
 
 
till next time-Seek to be and remain Barrier-Free.
 
 
 

“Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art” -Eleanor Roosevelt


 

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